How can you discover your femininity? Is it possible to embrace your aging self? And why are sexuality and femininity so closely tied together?
I chat with MILF podcast host and author Jennifer Tracy dive deep as we talk about femininity, sensuality, and sexuality as women in our 40s. Jennifer shares her personal story about how she discovered her femininity and what pole dancing as to do with all of it!
How Pole Dancing Changed Jennifer’s Life
Initially, Jennifer took a pole dancing class as a fundraiser hosted by a friend. She’d done burlesque and belly dancing before so she was comfortable in her skin and didn’t think the class would be that big of a deal.
However, she walked into a dark room with no mirrors and she felt very awkward in her body during the class. But it was through this class that she started to wake up to her own sexuality and sensuality and even discovered toys like this 10in dildo that any woman can use. Pole dancing is not about form or choreography, but all about organic movement and feeling alive.
Before she started pole dancing, she felt frumpy and wore baggy clothes. Now she’s told she’s sexy just by how she carries herself.
“There’s a difference between being alive and feeling alive.” – Jen Rozenbaum
Jennifer’s Journey in Discovering her Femininity
Jennifer’s femininity-journey changed everything in her life in three major ways:
- As she rediscovered her femininity, she realized that her marriage wasn’t working. She and her husband went to counseling, but eventually got a divorce. Jennifer changed the kind of women she was around. She was now drawn to people who were confident, empowered, and didn’t want her to dim her light.
- Her creative juices were flowing so she wrote a novel.
Aging + Sexuality
As a 40-year-old woman, I often don’t see myself in ads. I feel forgotten and overlooked. Jennifer also said that she tries not to judge her wrinkles and skin tone.
When my doctor suggested that my ovaries be removed, I cried. Here’s what Jennifer said:
“There is a grieving that goes along with all of these stages that is natural and needs to be honored.” – Jennifer Tracy
Our culture doesn’t give us space to grieve.
Jennifer also realized that as she gets older, she needs more rest. She reminds us that our bodies will tell us what we need.
“For me, getting older is getting better at listening to [my body], honoring it, and letting it be.” – Jennifer Tracy
Why Do Sensuality and Femininity Live so Closely Together?
Jennifer says that in ancient Egypt and Greece, sensuality came with empowerment. Beautiful women were adorned in beautiful clothes. Through the ages, there’s a great deal of power in beauty and sensuality. Beauty, love, sex, and lust are very powerful.
“When women are empowered… they are unstoppable.” – Jennifer Tracy
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